Wedding Etiquette for Flower Girls
Q. What color should I choose for my flower girl?
A: The flower girl dress should match the bridesmaid dress. The ivory flower girl dress seems to be the most popular color. Champagne, white, and pink flower girl dresses are also a very popular pick. Fabrics and styles come in different varieties, organza and satin are excellent choices. Beaded dresses add a lovely touch to the dress. You can find these dresses at our online catalog.
Ivory Flower Girl Dress, Ivory and Pink with Polka Dot Organza Flower Girl Dress, Burgundy / Red Satin Beaded Flower Girl Dress, Ivory and Champagne Flower Girl Dress
Q. Can I have a half a dozen flower girls? I have so many little cousins. I don't want to choose 1. What about my little infant?
A: How sweet! In Victorian England, having child attendants was all the rage, and it's still a popular British custom. Of course! Who in the world ever said you had to limit your wedding party? Invite all the cousins including the infants! Your wedding, your rules.
Q. My daughter is a flower girl in my best friend's wedding. I know she has selected a flower girl dress. Does that mean she is buying it?
A. It is customary for the flower girl or ring bearer's parents to pay for the dresses and suits. Keep in mind the bride chooses the dress, but do talk about a dress that can easily be part of her wardrobe. You may want her to wear it to church or a piano recital. Keep the selection open communication between you and the bride, but just remember she gets the final say.
Q. There's some concern about inviting our 6-year-old flower girl to the reception. If the invitation doesn't specifically say children invited does it mean that they are not?
A. Not necessarily. It may not have occurred to the family to write children on the invitation. It may have been assumed that children come along with parents. However, some receptions are adult only. Sometimes its a cost thing. There may only be a certain number of plates available. Some families may not mix children with parties with alcohol. In this case, you MUST ask. It is not OK to just show up with extra family members unless you know who is invited. It may be in order to get a babysitter after the ceremony.
Q. I'm the only bridesmaid in the party and there are 4 flower girls. Am I required to babysit as part of my duties.
A. Yes and no. During the wedding ceremony, the bride may ask you to check on the girls appearance before they go down the aisle, give them a pep talk, ease any feelings of anxiety, fix hair ribbons, etc. You might also have to take one to the restroom a couple of times. You can handle this, we know you can! As for the reception, you're totally off the hook. Parents will probably take charge, anyway. When it comes to partying, you're free to run with an older crowd.
Q. Does the flower girl stand in the receiving line?
A. Not usually, but if she's daughter to one of the newlyweds, then she should definitely be included. This is a big day for her, too.
